"Waiting is usually always longer than normally expected. But if we think about it, if it's really worth the wait, there's no reason to doubt because God knows the best time for everything."
-Shiya Tamasao
Nothing is more romantic to a woman who finds her "True Love". Surely every aspiring "girlies" have their standards. Some aspire for a man who has handsome features: brown hair, blue/brown eyes, tall, slim and attractive.
Some also prefers a man who has a pleasing personality and very romantic: someone who isn't afraid to say, "I love you" in front of friends, strangers and family; someone who will sweep you off your feet; someone who knows what you want; someone who will consent you even when you're wrong and someone who will never, ever hurt you.
In addition to our dreamy collection, let us not forget the typical wealthy and generous guy who can buy anything for you.
A fairy-tale-like description as it sounds, perfect ideals such as this one is unreal. Sometimes, we tend to set these specific standards that are somewhat unreasonable to any human being to possess because we are afraid to get hurt or disappointed.
Instead of facing reality, we are too blinded by the romantic stories we see on movies or read in novels that we become obsess or better yet quixotic of the possibility that in truth,"Mr. Perfect" does not exist.
Looking back to the Bible times, prophets like David, Solomon, Moses, Joseph, Jacob, Abraham and Isaac are not exactly perfect in any way. Although they all have something in common (which loves God) they are not described as individuals conformed to the classic amorous gentlemen that are likely seen on movies or "telenovelas".
Why do we still crave for "Perfect Prince Charming"?
The answer to that is because of "Wishful Thinking". We girls can be very fanciful sometimes. We often forget that men are not some kind of machine that we can control or manipulate. Changing them from a 'Beast' to a 'Handsomely courteous man' is very unlikely and very impossible to happen. Remembering that in life, only God has the power to change someone's heart.
How do we set it right?
If you are watching too much "The Notebook" by Nicholas Sparks, then it's time to revert your mind into reality. Whoever told you that a perfect man or a perfect relationship exists? If you are reading too many romantic novels, I encourage you to set aside all the rubbish and start reading your Bible. Don't be a hopeless romantic. The Lord will not be pleased if we keep conforming ourselves to the worldly standards.
As godly women, we must never be too aggressive, too dreamy, too obsess and too assertive for a relationship. We must learn to guard our hearts above all else (Proverbs 4:23). The Lord is not making us wait for no reason (Proverbs 27:14).
How do we know if He's the one?
If you prayed for it, you will know it by heart. However, do not be misled. Always ask for guidance and pray for God's confirmation. The Holy Spirit will always be there to help us so we need not to worry our pretty minds.
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Criteria for Judging
To all my single and godly ladies, I inspire you to always pray and ask God for guidance before choosing a potential partner in life. Don't be easily deceived by mere appearances. He could be the most gorgeous and the most outstanding fellow in the crowd but does he love Jesus above all? Also be reminded that not because He's a Christian, he's the right one.
However, if he's an unbeliever, don't hesitate to share God's love to him. If he doesn't accept it, pray. If he is willing, wait. Don't rush, don't be hasty. Learn to wait patiently. Let God do all the hard work. You don't need to do anything. Be still and know that He is God.
Nonetheless, if the man still doesn't grow spiritually, leave him be for corn's sake. If you have done your part sharing the gospel, it is God's turn to change his heart. So "NO" further action for you, pretty lady. The best thing you can do for him is "PRAY". It's the most powerful thing in the world.
All Is Well in God's Way
God's way + God's time + God's will = God's best
Many are the plans in a person's heart but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails. -Proverbs 19:21
Okay, so the classic whimsy fair-tale idea is now a turn off. The question now is what to do next? Surely, the best way to stay on God's track is through constant prayer. We also need to focus first to our Holy Father. What does His word tells us? As Godly women, we must set our standards to the Lord and not of the world. Because the world has so much to offer: lust, premarital sex, unwanted pregnancy and immoral values. But God only has one rule to His children: OBEDIENCE.
As we wait patiently, let us choose to be God's best. Someone who is worth finding to those godly men in searching: Let us be a woman of faith, filled by grace and love, not quarrelsome but loving, not fretful but patient, not dominant but respectful, not selfish but kindhearted and generous in any way.
He will treat you right!
Expect that wonderful surprise when he arrives and starts to woo you, then ask your hand in marriage. He might not be that "Perfect Ideal" you are anticipating, but the puzzle fits better in God's perfect design.
You will be surprise on how kind, understanding, generous, loving, caring and attractive he will be in your sight. Yes, he might have certain setback but that doesn't mean that he can't work his flaws. Like you, he's faith will always be a work in progress. However this time, it won't only be about him and you because from this moment forward, God will be the center of your relationship. The problems and struggles that will transpire in the future will not be exceedingly difficult. Knowing that the Lord is in-charge, there's no reason to doubt or be bitter about anything.
A woman worth seeking!
From a land unknown, he seeks.
In an exuberant crowd he sees.
A woman worth more than gold,
A woman different from all he knows.
Make sure the green lights are all glowing before you give it a GO!
Introducing the man courting you to your parents is also a big factor for a godly relationship. You can't just pick anyone you think is right for you without the approval of your family. Why? Because they know what’s best for you.
We must also consider these questions before we jump into conclusion.
- Do you have permission from your family?
- Does he love God/does he belongs to the Lord?
Marriage is very important because one incorrect decision could mean only one thing—FAILURE. It’s a no return, no exchange policy. That is why, it is essential to wait and pray for our future spouse to avoid forthcoming regrets.
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